Wednesday, October 21, 2009

That half year

When a child is young her/his parents will often refer to her/him as being “three-and-a-half years old” or “six and a half” or whatever is the correct age. Somehow in those circumstances that half year seems important to more accurately convey the message more correctly and [perhaps] to benefit the junior ego which is often present.

By the time a person is in her/his teens this mention of partial years seems less important, except to stress an upcoming major event. [“Mary is fifteen-and-three-quarters and waiting to take the driving test.”]

I noticed an obit in today’s paper for a woman who was “98 and a half.” I did not know the woman and I wish her family and friends well, but I wonder why they felt the need to list the half year.

Was it to minimize any confusion people might have with another woman of the same age who was only 98? Was the half year something that the deceased had taken great pride in attaining? Was the funeral director or the newspaper person who handled it trying to make it just a little longer in hope of getting a larger fee?

I’m just wondering.

I shuddered a bit the last time I had to add a whole new year to my age. There have already been plenty of them. I am not ashamed of age [I have even referred to myself as a “sexagenarian” on my profile here], but I don’t especially revel in the number.

Or maybe the deceased used to feel that aging herself half a year at a time made aging seem that less drastic.

Whatever the deal, as I said above, I do wish her family and friends well. But it does give me something to think about.

2 comments:

Dennis Berg said...

Hello,

This was Ray Sammon's last post on the Leaky Pen site. He died on the 26th of December. He will be missed.

Anonymous said...

We are profoundly saddened by the news of Ray Sammons, who died on December 26th, 2009. A memorial service celebrating his life is planned. You are warmly encouraged to attend as together we honor our good friend and colleague. Please check www.paynephalen.org where details will be posted as they become available and finalized. If you would like to receive a notification of the Memorial gathering with an e-mail, please send a message to RaySammonsMemorial@paynephalen.org. We plan a community potluck meal to follow the service.

RAY SAMMONS

Age 62 of St. Paul Died suddenly on December 26th Preceded in death by his parents, Lewis and Coral Sammons. Survived by brother, Martin, and sister, Brenda; nieces Marci, Mardi, Margi, Holly and Pam. Ray graduated from BethelCollege in 1969. Ray was past President of the Payne Phalen District Council. He loved St. Paul and participated in many city projects. The family requests that memorials be directed to "Sammons - Arlington/Arkwright Dog Park Memorial" c/o Payne Phalen District Five Planning Council, 506 Kenny Road, Suite 130, Saint Paul, MN55130. A memorial service in Saint Paul is planned. For more information visit the Payne Phalen District Five Planning Council website (http://www.paynephalen.org/) or call 651-774-5234. A second memorial service and internment will be at the convenience of the family in his hometown of Cedar Rapids, Iowa. 651-645-1233

A few words from District Five and community friends:

Ray was a tireless champion of the East Side and a strong advocate for the needs of working people and the disenfranchised. In his many leadership roles, he embodied the values of respect for the dignity and worth of all people. He was a strong and passionate voice for many and he will be dearly missed.

Ray contributed more than 30 years of volunteer service and leadership to his neighborhood and city in a variety of roles. He served several terms as President of the Payne Phalen District Five Planning Council and filled a variety of Board Officer roles. He provided strong leadership as the Chair of the Community Planning and Economic Development Committee. He served the City Of Saint Paul on multiple planning committees and task forces. He was active with the East Side Neighborhood Development Company (ESNDC) Housing Committee. He served the District 2 Community Council as a professional organizer for a period, and over the years, was a generous mentor to many District Council staff and leaders. Ray worked many years for Citywide Cab and advocated for the interests of taxi drivers in Saint Paul. He was unmatched in his precision knowledge of Saint Paul streets and local geography.

Ray was active in local politics, worked several campaigns and also volunteered as an election judge. Ray was known for his encyclopedic grasp and knowledge of Saint Paul people, issues, policy and local history. He enjoyed writing, singing and music and he was a lifelong student and observer of issues in religion, politics and history.

Ray spoke admiringly of his nieces, and he loved to recall fond moments of growing up in Cedar Rapids, IA with his siblings and parents. He clearly valued his family, heritage and the traditions which grounded his upbringing. He was active in the United Church of Christ and offered his impossibly deep bass voice to several church choirs (and a few Neighborhood Clean Ups!).

Ray is well remembered for his keen analytical thinking, his unique blend of wry humor and wit, and his rhetorical flair. Ray worked for greater fairness, respect and dignity for all people.

We will miss Ray very much. We honor his life and service.